Investing in Your Emotional Bank Account

Investing in Your Emotional Bank Account

Published On: December 6, 2019

Hollywood sure has a way of portraying love.  Romance is epic. The passion, the intrigue, the fantasy; and yet, here you are sitting with your partner talking about whose turn it is to take out the garbage.


Your relationship is doomed to fail you conclude but I urge you to reconsider. Love doesn’t necessarily need to unfold in spectacular fashion right in front of your eyes. Instead, it is what happens behind the scenes that is not accounted for that makes the difference.

Couples who are able to turn towards each other even in the littlest of ways build an emotional savings account that can serve as a buffer against stress. Whether its comforting your partner after a long day at work or taking the time to offer praise for a task well done, accumulating wealth in your account helps sustain a positive view of your partner and your relationship even when times are trying.

It is never too late to start investing into your emotional account.

The return on your investment is a lifetime of love.

Gottman, John Mordechai, and Nan Silver. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Seven Dials an Imprint of Orion Publishing Group Ltd., 2018.

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