Understanding What Causes Your Anger and Learn Strategies for Managing.
It is freaking terrifying
It is freaking terrifying when he goes from 0-100 in ten seconds.
It hits me like a brick and it paralyzes me. My heart is beating right out of chest. It genuinely feels like he is trying to hurt me. I just want to run and hide. In those moments I hate being anywhere near him. I just want him gone.
Facts About Anger
- It’s easier to feel anger than to feel hurt.
- Anger tends to be a surface emotion.
- Anger is physically and neurologically hard-wired into our brain.
- Perfectionists lean toward angry responses.
- Contaminated beliefs tend to sustain anger responses.
- Anger can come from an overblown sense of self-importance.
- Anger causes separation and wounds in the person who is angry.
- Unexplored anger can sour our experience of life.
- People are not always the trigger of anger.
Some of the best therapy is through individual anger management therapy in conjunction with an ‘Anger Management’ program. You can take advantage of online anger management or counselling, or face-to-face counselling programs.
Anger Management programs help by understanding how anger is essential, but powerful. It can severely hurt if not expressed safely and respectfully. Uncontrolled anger has destroyed scores of lives, friendships and families.
A contractor gave me some great advice when I was first learning to operate a big tractor and backhoe. It was “Slow is Pro”! He was correct. The bigger the machine the great damage I could bring to everything surrounding me. While it goes against my nature, the slower I went the less damage I caused and fewer mistakes I made. When I worked without consciously remembering to go slowly, I had some big and expensive consequences.
Anger Management programs help us slow down the processes of the automatic reactions of anger and bring them under thoughtful management and self-control. Online therapy is a great option when it comes to such programs.
No one, and I mean no one, changes unless they want to. If they feel like they have to, it is not going to be effective. Secondly, you need to accept that it is possible to be angry and stay in control and respond respectfully. Also, you need to learn the tools for sound self-management. These are all very doable. In the end, with successful rehearsals, the brain will slowly begin to do what it does best and adapt to your new directives.
Anger is a natural response we all experience. Even the happiest people experience anger. It can be a mixture of frustration and fear that rises up to protect or lash out. Everyone gets angry but not everyone needs help.
Is it a mental health disorder? No! Is anger experienced more often when someone struggles with certain mental disorders? Absolutely!
It is a natural, automatic response that bypasses the frontal lobe in order to have more of an instinctive reaction. Like a fire alarm, in order to protect first and ask questions later.
However, it is a choice if you acknowledge that we are highly adaptive creatures. Our brain has plasticity – it can re-wire itself. We can adjust our triggers and even in some situations totally disconnect some. An online counselling or face-to-face counselling program can effectively accomplish this for the person who is willing to invest their time.
Anger and fear are intrinsically related to one another. In fact, we are hard-wired neurologically. Our anger is our protection emotion that is there to defend and safeguard our life. Protective anger, in fact, bypasses the frontal lobe that is our reasoning centre, in order for it to initiate the protection protocol of survival. To change this sequence, we need to understand it, accept it and then train the brain, hence actually rewiring it. This is where online anger management therapy is essential.
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