Sessions Now Available with One of Our Registered Therapists
Some marriages end suddenly and some seem to grow apart over years. No matter what the cause or how the marriage fails, you are likely to experience very intense emotions from sadness to anger to hurt. There is confusion and sometimes panic as you scramble to secure your uncertain future. Often you will experience feelings of failure and insecurity.
This is a transition of great difficulty.
Within difficult transitions we are the most vulnerable to making our greatest mistakes. How you choose to handle this period of separation will affect the rest of your life. I encourage you to learn to process the pain and allow it to lead you to lessons of growth and maturity. You can let this be a stepping stone instead of a millstone around your neck. In contrast,
if you allow the pain to fester into bitterness you will find that it will infect your relationships moving forward.
Many people have gone through separation and divorce but yours is unique to you. Be careful not to isolate yourself. Surround yourself with supportive people. Be careful not to bring the family in too close to the details of the situation. Let them be family but don’t make them your counsellor; it could backfire on you.
Get professional help when you need it!
You will face legal and emotional problems with separation and divorce, and you will probably need professional help. For legal matters, seek the help of a lawyer. If you are experiencing severe emotional stress, that’s where we come in. Bayridge Counselling Centres have excellent, seasoned and mature therapists who understand separation’s challenges to both you and the family. Do not wait until things get worse. Get help for the children quickly. They are vulnerable and easily traumatized even when they are not acting out.
Most people find that a counsellor provides a the safe place and a safe person in which to process these difficult days. Life is tough. Some of the most difficult times are during the days of separation and divorce. These days are the time to reach out for help. We would be happy to be that help.
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- We’ve supported 35,000+ individuals
- Completed over 300,000 sessions to date.
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Learn more about our separation & divorce therapists.
Some couple sucked at arguing! Disagreements quickly turned into power struggles. This can be debilitating. Our Bayridge therapist have the patience and expertise to help you understand your partners underlying triggers with compassion. This can be a game changer.
Who hasn’t said to themselves and perhaps their partner: if my wife/husband ever had an affair on me I would be gone!” Not only do couples not see it coming but they don’t always react like they thought they would. We help people in these situations every single week.
Resourceful and wise couples integrate and invest in a therapist relationship for long-term success. Just as they want a medical doctor or financial adviser to be watching over the most important things in their lives, they see the massive benefits of solid partnerships.
Partnering and marriage can be a difficult but incredible journey. When a couple gets stuck, the last thing they need to do is repeat the same pattern. Like a good golf coach, a therapist can see what a couple is doing that is not productive, so much better than the couple.
Therapists, through their expertise and unwavering acceptance, help you understand the needs of your husband and wife, to help reconnect you with your best friend.
To think that you can learn all there is to know about coupling just through osmosis and observation is underestimating the micro skills required to communicate and problem solve to harmoniously work and live together.
Through every enduring marriage there will be desert periods and rediscovery periods of love and gratitude.
A great marriage therapist has the personal strength to hold space even when the discussions became intense. They then help each one to understand that their partner is fighting hard for you to see what they need. Often it is respect!
Bayridge couple therapists weave ‘firm kindnesses’ into every session to cement each session with respect, allowing partners to hear sometimes difficult truths.
Learning to share with one another without hurting one another is a skill and art of great value.
It is the responsibility of every good partner to care for the condition of the relationship! Passivity, aggression, avoidance, or discomfort are not acceptable reasons not to address issues.